Show Notes

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Episode 1 - Welcome to Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen

This inaugural episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen lays out the structure of the show: who the show is for, what the show is about, and a little bit about me and why I'm talking about this subject.

This inaugural episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen lays out the structure of the show: who the show is for, what the show is about, and a little bit about me and why I'm talking about this subject. It briefly touches on Connor's coming out story as well as a glance at some of his struggles, and our family's struggles over the past three years. I give an overview of topics to come and end with a cool tool to instantly help you feel calm! These two blogs will give you a little more in depth information: https://www.chrysalismama.com/post/message-of-hope https://www.chrysalismama.com/post/fly-my-beautiful-bird If you want to receive updates and alerts when I publish new episodes, please leave your email below. Please join me on this journey to transform the LGBTQ conversation. You are not alone! Click here to listen!
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Episode 10 - LGBTQ Mental Health

In this episode of Just Breathe, I discuss mental health specific to our LGBTQ kids starting with some tough questions:

In this episode of Just Breathe, I discuss mental health specific to our LGBTQ kids starting with some tough questions: 1. Why are depression and anxiety increasing in our kids when overall awareness is also increasing? 2. What are the underlying potential causes that ALL youth have in common? 3. What shifts are needed across the board ie. family/school/professionals? I take a look at the signs and symptoms of depression and anxiety as well as statistics specific to our LGBTQ kids. I talk about the importance of awareness, being available and then take apart the "why" as well as the "what we can do." This episode will not only help you understand LGBTQ specific adolescent mental health better, but it will also give you tips and information that will help you support your child. My resources page is a great place to start! I have my favorite websites, articles, and books listed here. I refer to it often, so take a look around. I also add to it monthly, so keep an eye out for new information! A personal favorite, Psychology Today allows you to search for all types of therapists using different filters. Love this one! The Administration for Children and Families will allow you to search for youth and family service agencies in your region. (When in doubt, Google "youth and family services near me.") An all-around good resource, The National Alliance on Mental Illness provides a plethora of information. If you loved this episode and want to help spread the word, please rate me and leave a review on Apple Podcasts! If you want to receive updates and alerts when I publish new episodes, please leave your email below. Thanks for joining me on this journey to transform the LGBTQ conversation. You are not alone! Click here to listen!
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Episode 11 - Interview with Susan Cottrell

In this episode, I share an insightful interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org, mother of 5 (2 of whom are queer), advocate, and beautiful human being. Susan shares stories with authenticity and depth of knowledge that makes you want to learn more!

In this episode, I share an insightful interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org, mother of 5 (2 of whom are queer), advocate, and beautiful human being. Susan shares stories with authenticity and depth of knowledge that makes you want to learn more! Susan's message crosses all faiths, as every one of us, regardless of church or cultural tradition, has received messaging in our lives about LGBTQ people. Listen in with an open mind and open heart, and know that so much love and light are coming to you! In this time of uncertainty and fear, more than ever, it is my greatest desire to spread hope and for each of you to know that you are not alone. Here are the links mentioned in the show: www.freedhearts.org Tedx Talk I would be so grateful if you would subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Click here for more resources!
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Episode 12 - Faith Questions Answered - Part 2

This episode is the conclusion of my interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org. More incredible information is waiting for you!

012 - This episode is the conclusion of my interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org. More incredible information is waiting for you! Susan's message crosses all faiths, as every one of us regardless of church or cultural tradition has received messaging in our lives about LGBTQ people. Listen in with an open mind and open heart! Here are the links mentioned in the show: www.freedhearts.org Tedx Talk I would be so grateful if you would subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Click here for more resources!
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Episode 13 - Help Your Teen Manage Their Anxiety - Interview with Dr. Melanie McNally

I have the pleasure of interviewing clinical psychologist Melanie McNally in this episode which is loaded with great tools and unique approaches to help your teen or young adult manage their anxiety.

I have the pleasure of interviewing clinical psychologist Melanie McNally in this episode which is loaded with great tools and unique approaches to help your teen or young adult manage their anxiety. In addition to working with adolescents face-to-face, Dr. McNally utilizes a unique online platform of her creation called Destination YOU. From teletherapy to interactive workshops, Dr. McNally, connects with teens and young adults in a way that makes sense to them! Check it out HERE! She is also the author of a coming of age novel, Counting Dragonflies, that beautifully weaves family and mental health struggles and triumphs throughout. This lovely book also has an accompanying workbook. Please subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! More Resources!
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Episode 14 - Protect Your Energy

In this episode, I return to basics and discuss ways to protect your energy no matter what may be going on around you - a pandemic, a crisis with your child, or just the usual day to day ups and downs of raising teenagers!

014 - In this episode, I return to basics and discuss ways to protect your energy no matter what may be going on around you - a pandemic, a crisis with your child, or just the usual day to day ups and downs of raising teenagers! I first look at identifying the different ways your energy gets sapped, and then I detail tips and tools for strengthening your reserves and protecting them. This resource lists five tools to help you "fill your cup" and keep it full. This article explains the science behind visualization. Here are five of my current favorite affirmations (adapted from a Gabby Bernstein meditation that she loves): 1. All is well. 2. I am open to creative solutions. 3. I am guided. I am protected. I am loved. I am safe. 4. I move through my day with grace, wisdom, and light. 5. I choose to see joy. Meditations: Freedom from fear (Heather) Positive Energy (Gabby Bernstein) As always, I am grateful for reviews, and please forward to anyone who may benefit!
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Episode 15 - Soul Not Skin - An Interview with Jen Slumac

In this episode, I interview Jen Slumac, author of Soul Not Skin. She is a mentor, educator, performer, and producer, and is known as a hope dealer.

https://www.chrysalismama.com/post/soul-not-skin-an-interview-with-jen-slumac
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Episode 2 - Coming Out - It's a Process

This second episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen takes a look at the Cass Identity Model for Coming Out.

This second episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen takes a look at the Cass Identity Model for Coming Out. I talk about each of the developmental stages and share personal stories, give examples of what to expect and how to best support your child through the process. The stages are as follows: * Identity Confusion * Identity Comparison * Identity Tolerance * Identity Acceptance * Identity Pride * Identity Synthesis Here are links to articles and resources I mentioned in the show: Article - Read This Before Coming Out to Your Parents Notes on the Cass Identity Model Cass Identity Model Empty Closets Book: This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids The Stages of Coming Out - Strong Family Alliance Information for Parents of LGBTQ Kids PFLAG (community support) Gay Straight Alliance (community support) PRIDE (community support) If you want to receive updates and alerts when I publish new episodes, please leave your email below. Thanks for joining me on this journey to transform the LGBTQ conversation. You are not alone! Click here to listen!
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Episode 3 - Embracing the Messiness of it All

In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, I begin with reading an updated article I wrote that summarizes the past three years of my family's journey.

In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, I begin with reading an updated article I wrote that summarizes the past three years of my family's journey. I break down why it is messy for our teens and why it is messy for us, validating the plethora of emotions and situations you, your family and your teen may experience along the way. I share stories, examples, and facts to gently encourage you to embrace the messiness of it all! Here is a link to the updated article I read on the show: Journey Summary If you want to receive updates and alerts when I publish new episodes, please leave your email below. Thanks for joining me on this journey to transform the LGBTQ conversation. You are not alone! Click here to listen!
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Episode 4 - Parents, You get a Process, too!

In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, I explain the six stages of the parents' process, weaving stories throughout each stage. The stages are:

In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, I explain the six stages of the parents' process, weaving stories throughout each stage. The stages are: ​ *Shock *Denial *Guilt *Expressing Feelings/Thoughts *Making Decisions *Trues Acceptance I talk about the importance of seeking guidance, whether it is professional help, a clergy member, a trusted friend, or through your own research. My resources page is a great place to start! I have my favorite websites and books listed here. I know I will refer to it often, so take a look around. I also add to it monthly, so keep an eye out for new information! A personal favorite, Psychology Today allows you to search for all types of therapists using different filters. Love this one! The Administration for Children and Families will allow you to search for youth and family service agencies in your region. (When in doubt, Google "youth and family services near me" An all-around good resource, The National Alliance on Mental Health provides a plethora of information. If you want to receive updates and alerts when I publish new episodes, please leave your email below. Thanks for joining me on this journey to transform the LGBTQ conversation. You are not alone! Click here to listen!
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Episode 5 - Tips for Surviving Crises Suring the Holidays

In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, I talk about this struggle of dealing with any kind of crisis or situation during a time of year that is already filled with lots of extras - of both stress and joy!

In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, I talk about this struggle of dealing with any kind of crisis or situation during a time of year that is already filled with lots of extras - of both stress and joy! I share another piece of our journey from two years ago as well as 7 tips and strategies that really helped me through that time that I still use today to help ground me. I also share two of my most favorite words/concepts: AND and IMPERMANENT ​ There are no links for this show, but take a look around my website and peruse my resources page for some fabulous suggestions. I have my favorite websites and books listed there. I add to it regularly, so keep an eye out for new information! Thanks for joining me on this journey to transform the LGBTQ conversation. You are not alone! Click here to listen!
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Episode 6 - Finding a Support System that Works!

In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen I talk about the importance of support – the natural next step after talking about the coming out process for you.

In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen I talk about the importance of support – the natural next step after talking about the coming out process for you. This is important because as we focus on our teen, our other children, our spouse, our other family members, etc, we forget to take the time for ourselves – to process everything coming at us. Seeking support – in whatever form - allows us to show up as the best version of ourselves ​ 1. Professional Support * Individual Therapy * Family or Couple’s Therapy 2. Faith/Spirituality 3. Family 4. Friends ​ Resources and Suggested Reading * Psychology Today allows you to search for all types of therapists using different filters. I've mentioned it before, it is a personal fave. * The Administration for Children and Families will allow you to search for youth and family service agencies in your region. (When in doubt, Google "youth and family services near me"). * Check out my resources page for suggested books and websites on faith and spirituality. Right now I am reading Gabrielle Bernstein's Super Attractor and LOVE it! I highly recommend any book by her. * If you live in the northern suburbs of Chicago, Haven Youth and Family Services provides incredible support and resources for both parents and children. Tool: Each of the above support tools are valuable and serve a specific function. You are not alone! Allow yourself to be vulnerable and allow yourself to be supported. It is in vulnerability that healing and growth can occur. ​ Connor will be with me for the next episode, so make sure to listen in! Please subscribe to Just Breathe and join the private Facebook page AND share both with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! ​ Click here to listen!
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Episode 7 - Hey Parents, This is What Your Teen Wants You to Know!

This episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is really fun! Connor and I share a list of topics that teens want their parents to know.

This episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is really fun! Connor and I share a list of topics that teens want their parents to know. Filled with personal stories, tips, humor, and very direct thoughts from Connor, this episode is both delightful and one you don't want to miss! I would be so grateful if you would subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! ​ Click here to listen!
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Episode 8 - Self-Care - The Ultimate Plan

In this episode, I discuss the importance of self-care.

In this episode, I discuss the importance of self-care. While massages, mani/pedis, time with friends, and exercise are all beautiful self-care strategies, I use this episode to dive deep into the "whys" and "hows" of a well-rounded self-care plan. I talks about aligning the following areas: * Physical Health * Fitness * Relationships * Career * Finances * Mental Health * Spirituality Self-care is important for everyone but can be especially valuable during difficult or uncertain times. Self-care is putting on your own oxygen mask before you assist those around you - you can only help others when you are the best version of yourself! I would be so grateful if you would subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! ​ Click here for more resources!
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Episode 9 - Interview with Jay Reid

In this episode, I share a powerful interview with Jay Reid, a successful businessman, author, and devoted husband and father who lost his youngest child to suicide in March of 2018.

In this episode, I share a powerful interview with Jay Reid, a successful businessman, author, and devoted husband and father who lost his youngest child to suicide in March of 2018. His authenticity, his story, and his mission will move you talk to your kids and join his efforts to end teen suicide. While this episode is a must-hear for all parents; parents of LGBTQ youth please know there is very valuable information here. My next episode will focus specifically on the different mental health issues our LGBTQ kids struggle with and how we can best support them. Here are the links mentioned in the show: www.chooselife.org Tedx Talk The Trevor Project is an incredible resource for ending LBGTQ suicide. Check them out here: Trevor Project I would be so grateful if you would subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Click here to listen!